Sexual Revolution 2017-18

These last few years have just opened the door to the subject of “SEX”. With all the gender issues, and open conversations, it sparks a time that all people now must shift.

Time Magazine Covers the Silence Breakers

All humans are sexual. They are born with some kind of gender that is marked by the genitals. Of course, there are rare cases where people are born with mix up, doubles or even nothing.

My friend Boudin has been talking my head off about the Gender Choice. Leave it to the folks in California to try to say that gender is a choice. Guess that is what comes of all that marijuana, he says. But his point is how our birth gender is not a choice. Not to list   gender on the birth certificate is forgery and may have concequences later. Who cares. No one looks at your birth certificate. Be who you want, what makes you happy.

To teach very young children they can decide is an abomination. How confusing can that be for a young mind and one that probably has no idea about fornication; a child will look at the physical evidence and wonder why they must choose.

Just look between your legs, that is what you are.

If you decide to change that through operations, I wonder do they actually have any touch sensations there, can some who has had their penis removed still orgasm?  What happens too all those nerve fibers, and connections under the skin that allow orgasms.

Sex is sex. No matter who you are, no matter how you use your sex, it is still just sex. Sex between who is a choice. Stroke here, lick there, touch this and that; there is a wonderful opportunity to explore sex and expand your sensual feelings.

In our world history, sex meant power over someone. That is what marriage is, a contract that the man owns the woman. Religions have made slaves of women throughout history. Women had less status than someone horse.

The abusive nature of man against woman has turned many women to couple with another woman. They feel safe. The same for men. Yet as I have heard, most gay men really enjoy being with other men. I think that is might be in our nature to really be able to have sex with either gender. The rules put upon us of old, were some kind of Control.

It has been a long road to get here. With all the world-wide communication, we are having a very large conversation. And it is about time.

Yet my conversation is not about the sexual equipment you are packing belowor they way you dress. It is not about what gender role you wish to play or live. It is not about the various ways of sexual activity. It is not about becoming some form of “trans”. All of that are the details of other people’s journeys and their working things out.

All I wish to add to this conversation is that what we all need to use and use daily is:

R E S P E C T.

Respect all people. That covers it.

For it is when people think they can force their idea upon another that becomes the violation, which sometimes escalates in to someone getting hurt or killed.

But now, publicly, we are talking about abusive behaviors. And what is more, people are losing their jobs over bad behavior. Something is happening here!

~ Rus



Gifts from a Stranger



As I was traveling through Austria, I had the best of conversations on the train with a man from the West Indies. Terrance said he grew up on the island of St. Lucia. He told me about fishing as a young dude.

He knew my home town and named one of my favorite restaurants right away. He worked as a trade dealer, he called it, connecting different makers with sellers and not having to work too hard. It meant he had to travel all the time and talk to so many  people, which he says is right by him. He loves it.

He wanted to see my work, including this blog and when he saw that my computer had stopped my progress, he said he wanted to give me his computer.


yoga comuter

He then pulled out a memory stick and took his data quickly. I was without words! His lap top looked new, although it was about a year old. It was called  Yoga as it can bend for use like tablets.


Then he handed it over to me. He told me to write boldly and help people feel good with the world. That over time he has seen people get so fearful out of nothing.

I was freaking out inside! Wow!

st christifer metal

I had almost enough money to buy a new one but here is a gift. I thought what could I give him?

I had a Saint Christopher metal on my neck, so I took that off and gave it to him. I told him it kept me safe in my travels and since he travels so much,  it just made sense.

Now although this man had a luscious brown skin, I swear he was blushing. He really was move by my gift. And it was more than the metal, it was like I was saying a pray for his future safety.

He held the metal in his hand and moved it over and over, looking at both sides, and I was looking at all the great software and apps he had installed on this computer gift.

I was nearly in tears. How can a stranger turn you to tears? By being human, being open to conversations, and hearings one’s story but even more than that was that he wanted to help me.

I was concerned about his business with out his laptop and he said he had another one at home. He can use that he said and he will be home within a few days.

There was a moment when we just looked at each other. Terrance was deep within his skin. The silence was sweet feeling.

Two more stops and I had to get off the train. I have Terrance’s computer and his contact information. I thanked him profusely and he in turn thanked me for the metal. With a few steps I was off the train and the train was leaving the station.

Computer in hand, I felt magnificent, as if God had a plan for me! Better yet is I now have someone who I can visit in St. Lucia, if he is there when I go. A computer and a friend, what gifts!

~ Rus





A Trip with No Name

Its been months since I have posted, and I wish I could say it was due to something other than loosing my laptop, well lost it under a truck tire as it syncronistically slipped out of my backpack to the path of the tire and, yes died a horrible death.

I travel so much I have learned to keep my work backed up and so nothing lost there. But this event has left me speechless.

~ Rus

Private Life of the Sea


“If the private life of the sea could ever be transposed onto paper, it would talk not about rivers or rain or glaciers or of molecules of oxygen and hydrogen, but of the millions of encounters its waters have shared with creatures of another nature.” ~ Federico Chini

Works Only if We Share


“We should do away with the absolutely specious notion that everybody has to earn a living. It is a fact today that one in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest.

The youth of today are absolutely right in recognizing this nonsense of earning a living. We keep inventing jobs because of this false idea that everybody has to be employed at some kind of drudgery because, according to Malthusian Darwinian theory he must justify his right to exist.

So we have inspectors of inspectors and people making instruments for inspectors to inspect inspectors. The true business of people should be to go back to school and think about whatever it was they were thinking about before somebody came along and told them they had to earn a living.”

~ R. Buckminster Fuller

Finer to Hear

man woman talk

“If a woman tells me: I love you because you’re intelligent, because you’re decent, because you buy me gifts, because you don’t chase women, because you do the dishes, then I’m disappointed; such love seems a rather self-interested business. How much finer it is to hear: I’m crazy about you even though you’re neither intelligent nor decent, even though you’re a liar, an egotist, a bastard.” ~  Milan Kundera

Be Curious

look to stars

“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.
It matters that you don’t just give up.” ~ Stephen Hawking